Guest Post: My decision to donate my eggs (Part 5 – the results)


It’s with an extremely heavy heart and through lots of tears that I write this final post. I got an email from the recipient couple this morning with devastating news. None of the embryos made it to day 6. We don’t know what went wrong but none of them are suitable to be implanted. I’m absolutely torn this morning and can’t stop crying. I knew meeting them would make this process more personal, and with that makes this bad news even harder to take. This was their last chance to have a child. I can’t imagine what it’s like for them at the moment.

Of course I have a few questions, mainly did I do anything wrong? Or could I have done anything differently? I also wonder about my chances of getting pregnant in the future if there is a something wrong with my eggs. I have a follow-up appointment next month with a doctor at the clinic so will be able to ask these questions. They also have a wonderful councillor I can talk to, and I will probably go back at some stage to talk all of this through.

This has been such a journey, but now with the worst possible outcome. I keep trying to tell myself that at least I gave them the chance. I have to hold on to that.


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Guest Post: My decision to donate my eggs (Part 4 – The donation)

The actual egg donation took place on Monday morning. I had a time to be there, and my wonderful friend Nikki came with me to be my support person and hold my hand. I was a bit nervous, but everyone was so lovely!
I had to get changed, and got an IV line inserted in my arm.

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They took me through to the theatre to get started. The procedure was done under IV sedation which works a treat! I’ll spare you the gory details of how they actually collect the eggs, and I don’t really remember much of it. I swear it only took about 5 mins, but apparently took 20. That’s how well the sedation worked! The next thing I knew I was back in the little cubicle and it was all over.

I think I had a bit of a sleep and woke up feeling pretty good. The whole thing really didn’t seem that bad. After a cup of tea we were ready to head home just before lunch time.

The recipient couple were there as the eggs get inseminated the same day so he had to make his contribution. I saw them briefly afterwards which was lovely, they had more goodies for me too to show their appreciation.

I was a bit sore that afternoon, but it was easily treated with panadol and a heatpack and an afternoon on the couch.

12 eggs were collected in total, and 9 were suitable for insemination. They following day they were checked and 7 were looking good so far. Then they leave them for 5 days in an incubator and see what happens. Apparently they can expect anywhere from 1-3 embryos to be suitable for freezing and implanted later on.



Guest post: My decision to donate my eggs (Part 3 – It begins)


Day 1 of my period arrived. Injections start on day 2. So last night I had to take my injection to work (it needs to be given in the evening) and did my 1st injection in the staff bathroom. It felt very naughty! But I didn’t have time to think about it as I was so busy at work. No time to get nervous!

When I met the couple we exchanged contact details but in the few weeks that had passed we hadn’t contacted each other. I knew they would probably be waiting for me to make the first contact. So I took the opportunity on day 1 to email them. Not surprisingly I received a wonderful excited email back. They get updates from the clinic too about how things are going but its nice to share with them also. I have a mixture of excitement, anticipation and nervousness going on and its nice to share that with them.

I started injections one morning later. Now its injections twice a day. I’ve been getting a headache, felt nauseated the other night, and my skin looks awful. I also think I can feel my ovaries. But hopefully this means things are going the way they should be, and I should find out tomorrow morning!

A few days later I had my first scan and blood test to see how things are coming along. And apparently everything is going like it should. The doctor doing my scan missed the part about me being a donor, and asked me something about doing a fresh or frozen embryo transfer. I must have looked horrified. NOPE! I really really don’t want them back thanks! But we had a laugh about it and everything went well with the scan. I had to get a quick blood test done too and pick up some more injections. I’m now continuing with the same injections twice a day until my next scan and blood test on Saturday morning.

The final days: Today was my last scan and blood test. It turns out my ovaries are the size of oranges which explains the pressure and uncomfortable feeling I’ve got. But it means everything is going well. I then had to wait for a phone call to give me instructions about taking my trigger injections (to trigger ovulation 36 hours before harvesting). I got my call in the afternoon. Harvest day will be Monday morning at 10am. Which means an injection at 10pm Saturday night. I also got my instructions for Monday morning, what time to take Panadol and when to arrive. I already had dinner plans for a friend’s birthday Saturday night so knew I would have to inject myself while I was out! So for the first (and only) time in my life I drew up drugs and injected myself in the bathroom of a bar. I could have gone home earlier but my friends said I should stay! I’m kinda glad I did now because it makes for a great story!

The following morning, I had to have a blood test. 9am on a Sunday. It feels too early. But I’m sitting in a waiting room full of people (there’s been no one in the waiting room the other times I’ve been here) and I can’t help but wonder about the other couples stories. There’s a couple looking nervous, another couple with a young child, what looks like a mum and daughter. I wonder if they are thinking the same thing about me? It feels like a sad place. But one of hope also. It’s nice to see kids in a fertility clinic.

Tomorrow is the big day, I’m starting to get nervous. Or maybe the medication made me nauseated…..



Guest Post: My decision to donate my eggs (Part 2 – The Right Couple)

Just a few days after that I was given another profile to have a look at. Instantly after reading it something just felt right. I didn’t hesitate to say yes. You know that feeling when something just feels right? I had that feeling, and it hasn’t changed.

They were contacted after I said yes, and were surprised and very excited and didn’t hesitate either. I mean, I sound pretty great on paper right? And it was the kind of reaction I would have expected. Hey, this woman wants to give you her eggs, she’s young, healthy and a nice person. What do you say to that when you’ve been trying to have a baby for over 6 years? Heck yes!


So after an appointment with my GP for some swabs, a script and more bood tests I was ready for my next appointment with the clinic. Everything up until now been annonymous, but I had the option of meeting the couple if we both wanted to. For a number of reasons I did want to meet them and like the idea of having contact with them in the future.

The day I met them I had an appointment with the counsellor first before they joined us. I was very nervous, but figured not as nervous as they would be. I had a brief moment of panic too, what if I didn’t like them? What do I do then? But all of that disappeared when they walked in the room, with a huge gift basket for me. I was completely overwhelmed! It was wonderful to meet them. I was able to hear more about their story, what got them to this point (6 years of trying to have a baby, including 3 failed IVF apptempts), and why they needed an egg donor. That feeling I mentioned before about something just being right? I still had that feeling when I met them, but stronger. I was excited to help this lovely couple.

I briefly had to see the clinic nurse for a drug teach. Basically how to inject myself. It didn’t take long! After years of injecting other people the hardest thing would be sticking the needle into myself.

Then we were all set to go. It was just a matter of waiting until my period in July. The way things work is I had to start a course of injections once my period started. More waiting! After all this time I was just pretty keen to get going and get things started.

Through all this I’ve told friends at various stages. Some times its come up in conversation, or others I’ve wanted people to talk to. Everyone along the way has been so supportive and very encouraging. I mentioned it to my Mum back in January when I was in the early stages, but hadn’t mentioned it again to my parents. I was most nervous about telling my Dad. I had no idea what he would say or what his reaction would be. So I told my brother first! That went really well. Then I phoned my parents. I’m glad I waited until I had met the couple, as I was able to give more specifics and answer questions. My Dad’s reaction? “Oh well that’s nice, typical of you to help people out isn’t it? Good on ya, Right, I gotta go have a shower.” So much for being nervous! I’m very thankful to have my parents support, and also the support of wonderful friends and work colleagues. No matter what happens in the next couple of weeks I know they will be there for me.



Guest Post: My decision to donate my eggs (Part 1)

I thought about blogging this a while ago and never did. So now I’ll do it before I leave it any longer and there’s even more to write about. There is a bit to catch up on!


Why? Why would anyone want to go through this process and donate their eggs to complete strangers? Well, my answer back has often been why not? I’m 28, single (have been for a while!) and not planning on using my eggs any time soon. If I end up having kids one day it’s still going to be a while away. So why not give the to a couple who want to have a baby?

I got asked at the first counselling appointment I went to if I was attached to my eggs at all (actual WTF?) No, I’m not, I get a period every month and it end up down the toilet.

So I started this process back in December when I first got in contact with Fertility Associates. I had seen a couple on the news who were looking for an egg donor and thought that was something that I could potentially do. I looked at all the information available and had a good read. I emailed my enquiry off. They emailed back with a bunch of information attached (what I had already read) saying someone would be in contact in a couple of weeks once I had read the attached information. Who doesn’t look into it first? Not me! So I emailed back saying that I would be happy to be contacted sooner. I got a phone call a day or two later and spoke to a lovely lady who is one of the donor egg coordinators in Auckland. After chatting with her I was sent for a bunch of blood tests. 8 tubes of blood later they were able to see I’m healthy, have normal egg reserve levels for my age and good news, don’t have any nasty diseases!

What next? The next step took me to see a counsellor and doctor at the clinic at the start of this year. They were there to make sure I was healthy physically and mentally. It was also a chance to make sure I understood the legal aspects, and everything the process involved. The doctor also scanned my ovaries, the best way to get a good look is with an ultrasound up my vagina. There is a TV screen at the end of the bed so I could see the scan at the same time. This, combined with the fact nothing like this bothers me, and doctors terrible hair dye job gave me the giggles! As a former practice nurse I have looked up hundreds of vaginas, I have no issues!

After this appointment I was sent a profile of a couple to look at. This was the same couple who had been on the news. I wasn’t necessarily looking to donate to them, but feel like I was kinda talked into potentially donating to the since I was one of their best options in terms of age and egg reserve levels.

So way back at the beginning of March this couple had my profile (which I had to fill out about myself) and some others, and had to decide who they were going to use. March went by, so did April, and then May. I get that it’s a big decision, but does it take that long? Right from the start it didn’t necessarily feel like it was the right thing with this couple. So when they were asking to be given until the end of May to make their decision I pulled out. I just knew something wasn’t right. It had already taken much longer than I expected, and I was ready to get things moving.


– @katiepie_nz